Let’s face it, our sex lives always need a little boost. They get a little stale, they get de-prioritized, we find things we love more than sex (like naps or HBO Max), and one day it dawns on us: We don’t need more research, we just need more ideas. This may not surprise you at all, but novelty and excitement are some of the key elements of passion and arousal. The good news is that you don’t need to push the limits and have Eyes Wide Shut parties every weekend to get that little oomph you’ve been craving.
Here are 4 easy, simple, and sexy games for you and your partner to try this year (because 2021’s already been stressful enough):
- Guess This Item
Blindfold your partner and grab a few random objects from around the house (it can be a feather, a belt, an ice cube, or a piece of rope, anything you can find – it doesn’t have to be inherently sexy!). While they’re laying down, trace an item lightly over their skin. The longer it takes them to guess, the further south you trace… it’s a game where there are no losers.
- Truth or Dare – Minus The Truth
If you’ve ever gone to middle school, you know the drill. Go back and forth daring each other to do increasingly high-stakes things – hopefully, they’re a little on the sexy side – and agree on a ruthless punishment if either of you passes. It can be anything like “I dare you to fake an orgasm” or “I dare you to tell me your wildest fantasy.”
- “Aural’” Sex
Find an erotic story and read it to your partner. It sounds simple, but this stimulates your senses: your auditory senses. Research has shown that reading or listening to erotic fiction is actually more arousing than watching porn. There is something about using our imagination to conjure up a scenario that makes it even more powerful.
- Sexy Spin The Bottle
This isn’t your average spin the bottle game. Cut one piece of paper into 4 squares, then ask your partner to do the same. Write down 4 sexy things you’d like the other person to do for you, or to you. Spread out the 8 slips of paper in a circle, and take turns spinning. You might not make it through all 8, in fact, you might get a bit distracted after the first few, but that’s just the beauty of it.