When you’re in love and getting married, you think that fairytale feeling will last forever. Though what they don’t tell you about relationships is that they take work — a lot of it.
Many view marriage counseling as a final straw. But actually, counseling can help a couple get to the root of issues before they become deal-breakers.
Let’s look at 6 signals your relationship will benefit from marriage counseling.
1. Your Communication Is Way off
Communication is the backbone of any relationship — that is, healthy communication.
Do you and your spouse not talk or talk only about negative issues? Do you keep secrets?
Remember, it’s not about what you say, but also how you say it. Marriage counseling will help you break through the barriers blocking effective communication.
2. Your Sex Life Is Non-Existent
It’s normal for a hot and heavy sex life to cool down after being together a while. But if things are very different, as in little to no sex at all, it’s a sign something is wrong.
Even having too much sex can mean your spouse is trying to make up for something.
If you’re noticing a chronic and significant change in your sex life that you can’t figure out a reason for, it’s time to talk to a counselor.
3. All You Do Is Fight
It seems that no matter what you say or what you do, you and your spouse are always fighting. Big things, little things, it doesn’t matter.
Fighting continuously about more than one issue is a sign of some underlying turmoil in the relationship. Couples counseling can help you figure out where it’s coming from.
4. Or You Never Ever Fight
On the other end of the spectrum, avoiding confrontation isn’t healthy either. Keeping quiet to keep the peace doesn’t solve anything. Plus, it allows resentment to build.
Having a relationship without open disagreements could signal a lack of interest. Let a marriage counselor help you talk through those issues to keep your relationship thriving.
5. There Are Ongoing Issues
Sometimes you run across an issue you and your spouse can’t seem to get past. It could relate to money, how to raise your children, or any other situation that’s important to both of you.
Having a third party talk you through your impasse can help your marriage survive. It may also help you see things from the other’s perspective you may not have gotten to on your own.
6. You’re an Engaged Couple
Yes, going through marriage counseling before getting married is a thing! And a healthy one at that.
A counselor will be able to help foresee any issues that could come up in a new marriage. Working through problems before saying “I do” will prevent bumps on the newlywed road later on.
Keep the Spark Alive with Marriage Counseling
Through it all, you know your spouse really is the love of your life. Keep that spark alive by letting your marriage benefit from marriage counseling.
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